My guess is that if you found this blog, you have done things to hurt yourself. Maybe you cut or burn yourself, but there are lots of different ways people hurt themselves. Many people don’t understand why someone would hurt her own body like that. It confuses and scares them.
Maybe you are confused and scared, too. Chances are that you are hurting very much on the inside. Chances are that you have been hurt and you don’t know how to communicate that pain you feel on the inside. Because of the shame you feel for what you do to yourself, it’s probably hard to ask for help. For that, I am sorry and I feel your pain.
If you found this blog, I might also guess that you hope for your pain to end. You long to be released from this cycle of hurting yourself, feeling shame, and hurting yourself again. The cycle never frees you from the pain on the inside, which is what you really want – to be free. You hope to pursue the dreams I know you have (even if they have been buried deep down inside) and to live a healthy and meaningful life. It may feel like everything inside of you and maybe people in your life are convinced that a free, meaningful, and purposeful life like that, for you, just isn’t possible.
I want you to hold onto hope. I know that people who self harm are not crazy. I know that you are not a monster or freak. You are not stupid – chances are you are bright, resourceful, kind and creative. You are not a lost cause or hopeless case.
I know this because I used to think all those things about myself but I don’t, in my heart, believe any of it anymore. I found freedom. I live a meaningful, purposeful, often challenging and often rewarding life today. Recovery is possible. Recovery is real. I am living in recovery from self harm and I believe that you can, too.
If you are here looking for hope, inspiration and wisdom to overcome self harm, this is the place for you. It has always been my personal policy to not give advice. I will not tell you what to do, who to be or what to think. You are uniquely you in your experiences, thoughts and feelings. It’s not my place to tell you what to do so this blog is not an advice column.
What I can do is share my personal experience. Through personal stories, I can share what I have learned and what has helped me. I can share my experiences with different situations and applying different skills. I can share my personal beliefs, how I discovered those beliefs and how they help me to live a recovered life today.
So here are some stories of my scars, stories of overcoming self harm. My purpose is to share hope, strength, wisdom and encouragement with you so that you can overcome self harm, too. Your pain can end. There is hope. Let me show you the way.